BS’’D
Parashat Hukat- It’s Not WHY, It’s
HOW….Seriously, Ask the Cow
Once, on a road trip, we decided
to take two cars to get to our destination. One of the cars had GPS navigation and
the other car didn’t. We decided to play it smart and appointed the car with
navigation to lead the way, and we in the second car would just follow without
knowing directions ahead of time. While the first car was cruising along
leisurely, those in the second car were sitting on the edge of their seats,
anticipating what the car ahead would do, trying to figure out the way. In the
middle of this frustration, we actually started laughing. Two people, going to
the same destination, using the same route had completely different
experiences getting there; one was blasting Shwekey’s CD along the entire
route, while the other car was making noise of its own. The only difference was
that one knew directions ahead of time while the other didn’t.
We learned that sometimes, the
destination isn’t what matters most. How we get there has the most profound
effect on us.
When
Miriam Haneviah passes away, the Be’er Miram, the well that existed in her
merit, ceased to provide water for Am Yisrael. Moshe Rabbenu was now given the
task of providing water for Kelal Yisrael. How would he achieve this? HaKadosh
Barukh Hu instructs him to speak with a rock and water will come flowing out of
it. What did Moshe Rabbenu do? He wants to get water from the rock, so he hits it.
If Moshe Rabbenu was not told the motive behind why he should speak to the
rock, he would have certainly spoken to it directly with no problem, doubts or
frustration. But since he knew the reason for interacting with the rock was to
draw water from it, he ended up hitting it, thinking that this will achieve the
goal. He calculated that as long as the end product is acquired, he could reach
it any way he sees fit. But we all know that sometimes, the destination is not
of prime importance; the way we get there makes all the difference.
Sometimes
when we know WHY we are doing some things, we tend to cut corners, thinking, eh, as long as I get there it doesn’t matter
how. We put ourselves on auto cruise and don’t do much work to get to where
we must go. Not good.
A
king of Benei Yisrael has certain missvot he must follow. Among them are not to
have too many horses, not to have too many wives, and not to have too much
silver and gold. Shelomoh HaMelekh was the wisest of all men. Had he not known
the reasons for these missvot, he would have kept them impeccably. But the Navi
tells us that he didn’t. Why? Because he
knew the reasons for these missvot.
One
of the reasons why a king cannot have too many horses is because the best
horses in the world are bred in Egypt, and HaKadosh Barukh Hu does not want us
returning there. Shelomoh HaMelekh said to himself, Okay, so I won’t take horses from Egypt, I will get them from
elsewhere. I’m sure Syria could hook me up with a few stallions. And so, Shelomoh
HaMelekh began to amass more and more horses, and sure enough, he collected too
many for a king to have. He rationalized his actions. He figured, as long as I get
to the right destination, it’s okay if I bend a few corners along the way. He missed
the point.
When
we are given a reason for why we should or shouldn’t be doing something, we
start rationalizing and compromising different elements of a missvah that we,
in our limited minds, don’t think are important, and then we miss the whole
point. We can even technically do the missvah but completely the wrong way, for
the wrong reasons. It’s not an easy thing to do. Even Shelomoh HaMelekh faltered
with this.
This
is why there are some missvot that we will never understand. Built into the
Torah, into the system of missvot, are certain commandments called hukim, which by definition we are not
meant to understand. One of these hukim is that of Parah Adumah, the Red Cow, which is what our Parashah this week is
named after.
HaShem
says, You want to become pure? Don’t ask questions. Burn this Red Cow, mix
in some ingredients with its ashes and sprinkle it on yourselves and wait a few
days. It’ll do the trick.
Does
it help me whatsoever if I understand the reason why this works? Absolutely not.
Does it lose its value even if I don’t understand it? Certainly not. Will I still
do this missvah? If only I would have such a zekhout! (Be’Ezrat HaShem soon in
the Beit HaMikdash, Amen!!)
Even
Shelomoh HaMelekh, who knew all the reasons behind each missvah, did not know
the reason behind Parah Adumah. He tells us, ‘Amarti ahkimah, ve’hi rehokah
memeni; I thought I could become wise, but it is beyond me’. We don’t always
need to know the reason behind everything.
This
is probably one of the reasons why we do not know exactly what Olam Haba is. If
we thought we knew what it was, we would start making our own calculations. Oh, this missvah is definitely worth Olam
Haba, but that one so isn’t worth it! We would know what we are ‘giving up’
so to speak and become ready to negotiate. We would overlook certain missvot
that seem smaller in our eyes, because in comparison to the grand scheme of
things, the investment just doesn’t seem worth it. Oh, Gan Eden is only a garden? I rather do what I want here on this
world, I never liked flowers anyways, I
get allergies in the Spring. It doesn’t work this way!
Sometimes,
it is not about WHY we do things, it is HOW we do them. HaShem wants something
from you? DO IT! What does it matter to you if you know the reason or not? Don’t
you trust that HaKadosh Barukh Hu knows better? If as intelligent human beings
we tend to act based on reason, you don’t think our Creator would, too? When the GPS asks me to make a right onto Main
street, do I pull over and ask, Khanoom
GPS, can you please explain to me the rationalization behind what you just told
me to do? No! Yalla! I make the right and move forward. The GPS knows
better than me. I'm not going to start questioning its every statement.
Don’t ask WHY you should do a missvah, ask HOW you can do it. You don’t understand the reason for kashrut? Don’t worry, just keep it! The Reason for Shabbat? Do it either way! (and of course, learn about these beautiful missvot as well; the point is not to hold back from doing a missvah only because you don’t know the reason for it). You will reap heaps and heaps of both personal benefit and reward, specifically because you did it without knowing or asking why in the first place. Remember, even the wisest of all men didn’t know the reason behind every missvah.
Don’t ask WHY you should do a missvah, ask HOW you can do it. You don’t understand the reason for kashrut? Don’t worry, just keep it! The Reason for Shabbat? Do it either way! (and of course, learn about these beautiful missvot as well; the point is not to hold back from doing a missvah only because you don’t know the reason for it). You will reap heaps and heaps of both personal benefit and reward, specifically because you did it without knowing or asking why in the first place. Remember, even the wisest of all men didn’t know the reason behind every missvah.
Life
isn’t meant to be in cruise control. Sometimes we have to put in some energy
and effort to get to our destination. Make
the missvah yours. In the end, you want to know who led the way back from the
road trip? The car that didn’t have a GPS navigation.
Be’Ezrat HaShem, may we all
develop the koah and Emunah Shelemah to keep and internalize EVERY SINGLE ONE
of HaKadosh Barukh Hu’s missvot, whether or not we understand the reason behind
it. May we do them the way HaShem requires of us and not only the way that is
most comfortable for us. May we very soon be zokhim to be sprinkled with the
ashes of the Parah Adumah in the Beit HaMikdash, Amen!
Wishing everone a Shabbat Shalom
uMevorakh!
Ariellah Samimi